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Testimony of Lou,
mother of twins
Can you introduce yourself ?
My name is Lou, I am 31 years old, I am a manager in a hairdressing salon in Lyon and I have two 8 year old twins.
How did you take this twin pregnancy?
I was 22 so it wasn’t really planned to get pregnant, it was a real surprise. I found out I was pregnant with twins on the first ultrasound.
What was your first reaction to the news of this pregnancy ? What was that of your spouse ?
The first reaction was shock whether it was for me or for dad. It was even a double surprise !
How did you organize yourself for the arrival of your twins ?
I didn’t have a job and had to go back to school, so I pushed back my hairdressing year to the next year. We also had to find an apartment to live together because we had been as a couple for 8 months.
How did the pregnancy go ?
It wasn’t easy, I had to make some concessions, but it was for a good cause.
How did the birth go ?
The babies didn’t have any problems but it was more difficult for me both physically and mentally. It was very trying but they were doing well so that’s the main thing.
From the moment you had your babies in your arms, how were the first days? Did you have any apprehensions ?
Not particularly, I was happy to have them, they were very good ! They were eating well so everything went well.
Wasn't it too complicated to manage the organization with two babies ? (meals, nights…) ?
Yes, sure it’s complicated but we adapt, when we don’t know what it’s like to have one, we think it’s normal. There are times when it was difficult, like during meals, but overall we adapt quickly and get by.
What did you find most difficult about the arrival of twins ?
The logistics but also the fact of being isolated, of not being able to rely a lot on friends because that’s normal, they also have their lives. There was a certain disconnect with people my age. Not being able to count on family either because we didn’t have any around us. So it was hard to have moments of your own.
How did you combine your professional life with your personal life ?
I postponed the start of my hairdressing studies for a year because I was in college before and got pregnant when I had to go to hairdressing school. I couldn’t combine my studies and my twin pregnancy so I decided to postpone this return.
When I resumed my studies, a year after giving birth, it was difficult to combine the two, it was a lot of a sudden but it was.
Today, do you see a special bond between the two children ?
Yes yes there is a special bond, they get along well, they understand each other well, they are very close. They have a very nice bond.
Finally, what advice would you give to future parents of twins ?
So for parents it would be not to forget to be two, to find moments of their own. When it comes to children, it’s important to find moments for each of them, not to want to put them together systematically. The first three years are the most complicated, but after that it’s all about happiness! We must hang on !